For many women, the idea of reaching out for help feels overwhelming. While they may recognize their struggles, multiple barriers often stand in the way of getting the support they need.
Hi, I’m Crystal Doiron, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker at Seven Oaks Therapy. I understand the unique challenges women face when seeking therapy. I specialize in working with women who feel stuck, exhausted, or uncertain about the future.
If you’ve been hesitant to begin therapy, you’re not alone. In this article, we’ll explore some of the common barriers and how to work through them.
The first common fear about therapy is “I Don’t Have Room in My Schedule.”
Between work, parenting, relationships, and endless responsibilities, many women struggle to find the time for therapy. It often feels like there’s always something—or someone—more urgent to take care of.
Instead, think of therapy as an investment in yourself. Just as you wouldn’t neglect a doctor’s appointment for a physical illness, your mental health deserves the same level of care. Many therapists offer flexible scheduling, including evening or virtual sessions, to help fit therapy into your busy life.
The second common fear about therapy is “I’m Too Overwhelmed to Even Start.”
When life feels like an endless to-do list, adding therapy to the mix can feel like too much. Emotional exhaustion can create a mental block, making even the first step—scheduling an appointment—feel impossible.
It’s okay to start small. Break the process into manageable steps. Instead of committing to long-term therapy right away, begin with a single consultation. Remind yourself that therapy can actually reduce your overwhelm by helping you process emotions more effectively.
The third common fear about therapy is “I’m Afraid to Open Up.”
Women with avoidant attachment tendencies may struggle with vulnerability, fearing dependence on a therapist. Those with anxious attachment styles may worry about feeling judged or abandoned in the therapeutic process.
Therapy provides a safe, nonjudgmental space where you are in control. The right therapist will meet you where you are, at your own pace. Understanding your attachment style can help you navigate relationships with greater awareness and confidence.
The fourth common fear about therapy is “I’ve Been Hurt Before.”
Past trauma, especially if it involved betrayal or emotional harm, can make it difficult to trust others—including therapists. Fear of being misunderstood or invalidated may hold women back from seeking help.
Finding the right therapist is key. Trauma-informed therapy helps you process past experiences in a way that feels safe and empowering. You deserve a therapeutic relationship built on trust, respect, and understanding.
The fifth common fear about therapy is “Nothing Will Change Anyway.”
Depression and trauma can make the future feel bleak. Many women believe that no amount of therapy will truly make a difference, leading them to stay stuck in pain rather than risk disappointment.
Healing is possible, even if you don’t believe it yet. Therapy provides new perspectives, tools, and coping strategies that can reignite hope. Remember, small steps toward healing are still progress.
The sixth common fear about therapy is “I Should Take Care of Others First.”
Women are often conditioned to put the needs of others before their own. The belief that self-care is selfish prevents many from seeking help.
Think of the oxygen mask analogy: On an airplane, you’re instructed to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of your mental health allows you to show up as your best self for those you love.
Seeking help isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s an act of courage. At Seven Oaks Therapy, we provide compassionate support to help women break through these barriers and find the relief they deserve.
If you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to start therapy, consider this your sign. Your well-being matters. Reach out today to take the first step toward healing.